I put this on facebook yesterday, I then woke up at 1am in a panic.
It is so strange, sharing these personal intimate thoughts out into this metaphorical blackhole. It seems so clear as Im editing the videos, and then all this fear and self doubt starts creeping in. My diary address’s marginalizing the experience of folks experience parental alienation and or estrangement from their kids, grandkids or young adults. I clarify that it isn’t the same as having an argument with a kid, then over time things repairing the injury and returning to normal. Parental alienation is more like alcoholism than anything else I can explain. One person has it, and then it slowly infests the whole family system. Eventually no one knows what is real, and everyone in the family becomes sick.
Thats were therapy and group programs like AA or PA-A come into play. Like minded people come to recover, in a group that understands their struggles.
I have hope that my family system can change……..and I know it won’t unless the work is done individually and then collectively.
Parental alienation has shattered my life and my children’s lives in so many ways. The scary thing is they have no idea! Amy Baker’s 8 Symptoms of PA are really eye opening, #8 says
“Spread of animosity”
The final symptom refers to the spread of animosity to other people.
“In other words, if the father is the targeted parent, the child’s hate spreads from the father to his family members such as aunts and uncles and grandparents. Even though these relatives have done nothing wrong, the child will suddenly hate them and never want to see them because of their connection to the father. In extreme circumstances, this animosity can even extend to the targeted parent’s pets.”
So, today I am tired……..