Parental Alienation is a serious issue in separation and divorce cases, recognised by psychologists as emotional abuse and family violence towards the child and the rejected parent and family members. Parental alienation has long-term negative effects on the children. This video will provide a brief introduction of what parental alienation is, the consequences, what does alienation look like in the parent and the child, and common tips for co-parenting to reduce conflict and avoid participating in alienation.
TIMESTAMP What is Parental Alienation? 00:30 Parental Alienation vs Parental Alienation Syndrome 01:46 Consequences of Parental Alienation 02:17 3 Types of Alienators 03:28 Parental Alienation Behaviours 04:53 8 Components of Parental Alienation 06:30 Treatment in the Justice System 11:27 Good Co-parenting 12:33 Coping and Moving Forward 13:57
Parental Alienation is focused on the behaviour of the alienating parent which can lead to Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS), the rejecting actions, thoughts and feelings of the child towards the alienated parent.
– Children generally do better connected with both parents. Therefore the consequences of child-parent separation can result in long-term harm. For the child, this includes health issues, problems at school, social adjustment challenges, engaging in risky sexual behaviour, or use of drugs & alcohol, involvement in criminal activities later on in life. For the alienated parent, this involves stress, health issues, higher substance, drug, alcohol abuse, depression, and suicide.
– Targeted parents should be considered an abused adult, and the children should be considered an abused child. The best option is to get treatment for the abusive (alienating) parent and put the children in a safe environment with the non-abusive (alienated) parent.
– Alienating parents can be classified into naive, active, or obsessed alienators. Naive and active alienators can curb their behaviour with co-parenting classes. Obsessed alienators usually require professional intervention and treatment because of underlying personality disorders such as narcissistic or borderline tendencies. – Parental alienation behaviours include rigid enforcement of visitation schedule, blaming the other parent for problems in front of the child, changing the name of the child, ‘rescuing’ the child from the other parent. At the extreme end, this can involve false allegations of assault, sexual abuse, drug, alcohol use or illegal activities on the targeted parent.
– There are 8 components to identify parental alienation in children developed by Dr Richard Gardner. These include denigration, frivolous rationalisation, lack of ambivalence, ‘independent’ thinker phenomenon, automatic reflexive support, absence of guilt, borrowed scenarios, and spread of animosity. Parental alienation is mild if 1-3 components present, moderate if 3-5 components are present, and if 5-8 components are present, it suggests extreme alienation.
– Family Courts have traditionally treated parental alienation as a custody issue instead of a child protection issue. – Social workers around the world (esp UK, Australia, US, Canada) are gradually being trained to look for signs of parental alienation. With more awareness raised by family advocate groups, NGOs and other professionals, legislative change can be made to end this form of child abuse. – Solicitors placed in the ethical position of inadvertently promoting parental alienation should ask the Court to assign a guardian ad litem to protect the interest of the children.
– Parents can observe co-parenting rules to avoid participating in or triggering alienation behaviour. – As an alienated parent, the pain of emotional and physical distance to your children can be heartbreaking. Most alienated parents can find it hard to sleep, eat, or will be overcome with sadness, grief or depression. Suicide rates among alienated parents are at epidemic proportions. – As an alienated parent, you are not alone. It’s important to find support to give you the perseverance of going through the family court system to reunite with your child. In the meantime, you can be a role model for your child.
REFERENCES PARENTAL ALIENATION: NOT IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILDREN by Douglas Darnall https://www.fact.on.ca/Info/pas/darna… Parental Alienation Awareness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cYV8G… Parental Alienation, Good Versus Evil https://medium.com/ccasupport/parenta… Parental Alienation Syndrome vs. Parental Alienation: Which Diagnosis Should Evaluators Use in Child-Custody Disputes? Dr Richard Gardner https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/7803… Parental Alienation Syndrome: What Is It, and Who Does It? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl…SHOW LESS